Name that Tune
It seems that in my triangle of friends "Forgiveness" and "Redemption" are the songs of the moment so I may as well add my part to it too. There has been a pretty nice dialog going on between two of my closest friends (whose blogs are on Unleadedlogic.com and The Realm Beyond Blog, both of which I have a link to on this site) who parted ways a few years back and I would be a liar to say that I'm not guilty of turning my back at least part way on both of them in the past 2 or 3 years. My ignorance was aided by having a whole lot going on in my life that required all of my attention and left very little room for anything else. To those of you who don't know, and I don't suppose there are many, in the past three years I've totally devoted my time to the worthy cause of love. Yeah that sounds cheesy but it's accurate. "Love" is a really broad thing to devote yourself to and I wouldn't recommend it to the weak of heart or spirit. It makes me sound a lot more chivalrous than I am, but I'm going to stand by what I'm saying...
For the past 3 years I've ignored everything that once made up my life: school, art, myself (Do I need to post before and after pictures highlighting my physical appearance over the past 3 years? I'll spare you), family and especially friends in order to follow one thing that I have been really passionate about. That "thing" is helping my wife immigrate from China to the United States so that we can be together at last. What a girly cause huh? Yeah I guess so, but it was really worth working for. So in the past 3 years I've been back and forth between China a few times to get paper work going and wheels moving there and in the US to get paper work and wheels moving here as well as battling family members who were opposed to me getting married in the first place and doing my best to maintain a long distance relationship. In that time I was also working through some other personal problems. So with all that and being a full time college student who lived far from all my friends it was tough to keep in touch with any of them. I thought things might get easier but they really haven't because now I'm married, still living far from them and taking care of my responsibilities as best as I can.
It was a bastardly thing to do, to ignore my friends or not devote time to them, because friendships are fueled by that and cannot survive without it. However there is something that lives in the core of a true friendship that cannot be destroyed easily. I never forget the good times I've had with my good friends even if we haven't talked in months or years. Those feelings of comradery and my hope for my friends' wellbeing and success have never wavered and I doubt they will. I don't blame anybody nor do I hold grudges against anyone if they grow away from me because it's a natural part of life that cannot be avoided and it's unfair to blame someone for what is out of their control. We all have important things that we are working towards in the limited time that we have. Everything has its time.
-Joe
The Latent Image
For the past 3 years I've ignored everything that once made up my life: school, art, myself (Do I need to post before and after pictures highlighting my physical appearance over the past 3 years? I'll spare you), family and especially friends in order to follow one thing that I have been really passionate about. That "thing" is helping my wife immigrate from China to the United States so that we can be together at last. What a girly cause huh? Yeah I guess so, but it was really worth working for. So in the past 3 years I've been back and forth between China a few times to get paper work going and wheels moving there and in the US to get paper work and wheels moving here as well as battling family members who were opposed to me getting married in the first place and doing my best to maintain a long distance relationship. In that time I was also working through some other personal problems. So with all that and being a full time college student who lived far from all my friends it was tough to keep in touch with any of them. I thought things might get easier but they really haven't because now I'm married, still living far from them and taking care of my responsibilities as best as I can.
It was a bastardly thing to do, to ignore my friends or not devote time to them, because friendships are fueled by that and cannot survive without it. However there is something that lives in the core of a true friendship that cannot be destroyed easily. I never forget the good times I've had with my good friends even if we haven't talked in months or years. Those feelings of comradery and my hope for my friends' wellbeing and success have never wavered and I doubt they will. I don't blame anybody nor do I hold grudges against anyone if they grow away from me because it's a natural part of life that cannot be avoided and it's unfair to blame someone for what is out of their control. We all have important things that we are working towards in the limited time that we have. Everything has its time.
-Joe
The Latent Image
posted by latentimage at 2:31 PM
1 Comments:
I don't blame you for anything Joe!
You took a chance to grow and expand your life and you have. Now not only are you stronger, but you have a life partner as well; thats awesome!
The bottom line is: All good friends that walk off the path, bump into each again somewhere along the road...and when they do; they walk together again!
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